Whether you are experiencing an unplanned or planned pregnancy, it can be a stressful and difficult situation. Pregnancy, for some, can be an overwhelming experience. The first step is to accept your situation. Some will find that speaking with a counselor helps with this. Take as much time as you need in order to come to accept the reality of your situation.
If the father of your child doesn’t know that you’re pregnant, let him know. There are, of course, exceptions to this advice. If you were a victim of rape or abuse or you fear that your life or the life of your baby is endangered, it is best not to inform the father of your pregnancy. But if not, he has the right to know. He has the right to help you make a decision. After all, he is also the parent of the child.
Next, consider telling your family and close friends—trusted loved ones. They love you; they want to help you. If they don’t know what’s going on in your life, they can’t help you. Open up to them and let them provide the emotional support you need while taking responsibility for your situation and making an informed decision.
Research Your Options and Make an Informed Decision.
While it is important to take responsibility, remember that you do still have options. Because every situation is different, there is a myriad of options from which you can choose. You just need to find the option that works best for you. Don’t let others pressure you into a decision that you don’t feel comfortable with. Because these next few decisions you’ll make will be life-altering, it is important that you make an informed decision. The only way to make an informed decision is to research, ask around, study, and learn. It takes work and dedication, but it is the only way to find the right choice for you and your specific situation.
Maybe you’ve become a parent sooner than you would have expected. Your pregnancy may bring you into the realm of adulthood, forcing you to make adult decisions. Taking responsibility for your situation is crucial to your progress and helps you to move forward through life—no matter which option you choose is best for both you and your child. As we grow and mature, we are all required to be responsible. Start here. Start now.
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