Telling the Expectant Father
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Determining how you will tell the expectant father that you are pregnant will likely depend upon the situation. If the two of you have been planning a pregnancy and trying to conceive, then you are probably already imagining how and when you will tell him. Some women choose to let the father know as soon as they suspect they are pregnant, when they see the positive result on the home pregnancy test or wait until they have confirmed it with their physician.
Certainly the expectant father should normally be the first person that you tell of your pregnancy regardless of the situation. Even if this is not something that you had planned, he should still know as soon as possible so that the two of you can discuss options and you can let him know how you feel about the matter and any decisions that you may have made. If you are not yet certain how you feel about the pregnancy and what course of action you will take then you may need some time to gather your thoughts and determine your own feelings before you discuss it with him.
In the event that the pregnancy was not planned make sure that you avoid starting the conversation off on a negative note. Remember that even if the news of the pregnancy is not good news, it is important to start off by letting him know that you value your relationship with him and then follow up by stating the facts.
If this is a planned pregnancy then there are many different and delightful ways that you can let him know about his impending fatherhood. How you choose to broach the matter may depend upon your own personality. You may find that even though you have dreamed for quite some time now of making the announcement in a memorable way that you cannot help but to just blurt it out.
On the other hand, you may wish to go with an approach that is more thought out in order to make sure the moment is as memorable as possible. There are certainly many creative ways in which it can be done. One option would be to buy him a gift, such as a diaper bag or a book on what to expect as an expectant father, wrap it up and give it to him.
Regardless of whether the pregnancy is planned or unplanned, following the guidelines below can help to ensure that the process goes as smoothly as possible.
Should you wait until you have confirmed the pregnancy or let him know as soon as you suspect? The answer to this will vary based on your situation, how you feel about it and whether the pregnancy is planned or unplanned. If the pregnancy is unplanned, it may be best to wait until you have confirmed it.
Also, keep in mind that it is typically best to have the conversation in person. Naturally, there may be some situations in which it is simply impossible to have the conversation about the pregnancy face to face, but when possible, that is the best way to share the news.
Work on choosing a time and a place to have the conversation when you will both be relaxed and the conversation will be free from interruption. There should not be any distractions from the conversation at hand, regardless of whether this is a surprise pregnancy or a planned pregnancy. If the pregnancy is a surprise, you will want the privacy to discuss your feelings about the matter and options. If this is a planned pregnancy then the privacy will be nice to allow the two of you to soak up the joy of the moment.
