If you are dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and you are now considering adoption, you need to know more about the adoption process. Knowing the steps and events you can expect along the way will help you navigate the process smoothly and successfully. The following is a basic outline of the steps a birth mother can expect during the adoption process.

Step One

The first thing you need to do if you are considering adoption is to contact an adoption agency or an adoption lawyer. They will help you determine whether you are ready to move forward with the process or whether you need more time. They will also explain your options regarding the selection of adoptive parents, your hospital stay and your contact with your baby and the adoptive parents after the process is finalized.

Step Two

Part of the adoption process involves you the birth mother developing an adoption plan. An adoption plan outlines what your wants and needs are for you and your baby. There are many things you need to decide when forming your adoption plan. Some of the things to consider would include:
Do you want to pick your baby’s adoptive parents?
Do you want to have contact with the adoptive parents?
Do you want to have contact with your baby after the adoption process?
Do you want the adoptive parents present during the birth?
These are just some of the things that you need to include in your adoption plan. A adoption counselor can help you create a comprehensive plan that covers all of your bases.

Step Three

If you have decided to take part in the selection of adoptive parents you will do so with the help of your agency or lawyer. They will provide you with profiles for prospective adoptive parents that have already been screened. You can also choose someone on your own like a relative, or you can choose someone through a friend or relative. Once you have narrowed down your choices for adoptive parents you can meet with the people you are considering. This step is completely optional, but many women find that it helps make the selection process go more smoothly.

Step Four

Details of your adoption can be ironed out between you and the adoptive parents you have chosen through the agency or lawyer you are working with. They will ensure that the level of contact you desire is negotiated. They will also iron out details regarding your pregnancy like whether or not the adoptive parents will be involved in appointments or the birth.

Step Five

Once you have ironed all the details of the adoption plan out with the adoptive parents and the third party you are ready to give birth. It is best to do all this as far in advance as you can because it eases the burden and stress when your baby is born. When it is time for you to go to the hospital you will let your adoption agency or lawyer know and they will ensure that the wishes for your adoption plan are followed. This may include your desire to see you baby, whether or not the adoptive parents are present and making sure emotional support is available to you.

After your baby is born you will sign the documents to finalize the adoption process. The laws surrounding the finality of these documents vary from state to state and they should be discussed with your agency or lawyer prior to you giving birth. Most likely your baby will leave the hospital with their adoptive parents. It is important for you to seek support during this time as it will no doubt be emotionally trying. Support can be found through groups within your agency or community, friends, family, and even online.